There is nothing as life changing as having a child but nothing prepare you for the questions and the challenges; the biggest one arises when you and the child are of the same gender. You’re forced to seek answers on how to be a better version of yourself.

I took some time to speak to the men in my life, friends, family & anyone willing to speak. I asked them to define themselves and to share what it takes to be a man. These are the lessons they learnt.

When last did you have a conversation with yourself? Did you like who you were when you no longer had to pretend you were okay?

We live in a world of trends and going with the flow, self-care and affection being the latest one.

How much do you really value yourself, if you don’t feel deserving of kindness?

Till Death Do Us Part – We are born to die. The phrase is usually reserved for marriage but it is a somber, a painful truth and so the only thing guaranteed in life is death but there are a thousand ways to die, a million ways for a bloodless death and only one you.

Rape, Loss, Trauma. Who do you become when you die? Who are you when no longer married to your mind and the parts that held you together – faith, hope, love – no longer have meaning.

There is nothing as life changing as having a child but nothing prepare you for the questions and the challenges; the biggest one arises when you and the child are of the same gender. You’re forced to seek answers on how to be a better version of yourself.

I took some time to speak to the men in my life, friends, family & anyone willing to speak. I asked them to define themselves and to share what it takes to be a man. These are the lessons they learnt.

Growing up I always loved the idea of pen meeting paper to write sweet nothings to the one I love. I longed to express my affections in coded messages and abbreviations only we would understand. I grew up with a fairytale idea of romance – I never thought love could hurt and I never thought love could affect the mind.